Reddit is Lecturing This Dad-to-Be Who Used the Word 'Nasty' When Discussing Childbirth With His Pregnant Fiancé

Childbirth is many things: A mind-boggling phenomenon, a life-changing moment, a jaw-dropping show of the power that those giving birth hold, a beautiful instance of another person entering the world. It’s undoubtedly all of those amazing things, yet this Reddit dad-to-be chose to call it “nasty” — to his pregnant fiancé’s face.

Mr. Maturity took to the platform’s “Am I The A—hole” subreddit to explain that he and his partner were discussing their plans for their baby’s delivery, and his fiancé asked if he planned to watch their child come out of her and into the world.

“I said ‘no, that’s nasty,’” he wrote, continuing, “Now she’s incredibly mad at me for saying that. She says it’s insensitive and an insult to the whole process of her bringing our child into the world.” Well, yeah, she’s not wrong. Him chalking up 9 months of her sacrificing her body autonomy on every level to something that’s “nasty” is pretty insulting.

He continued, “I’ve seen videos of childbirth before and it does look pretty gross. It’s bloody, slimy, gooey, stretchy, etc. That doesn’t mean that I don’t respect what women go through to carry and bring forth life. So tell me Reddit, AITA?”

Users far and wide lectured OP in the replies for his insensitivity and poor wording, with one Redditor writing, “Here’s the correct answer: ‘I have no idea. You’re the one who will be doing all the work, so I plan to be focused on you and giving you all the support you need.’ YTA.”

Another user replied, “Even an honest ‘I can’t see blood, I’d rather focus on you’ would be okay. But the initial reaction being ewww is so immature.” Similarly, one Redditor wrote, “YTA for your wording. ‘I rather stay up by your head to support you’ would have sufficed.” They then made a super valid point, giving OP a much-needed reality check: “Also, kids can be 100x grosser. Pee, snot, poop, vomit. You’ll have to deal with it all. Buckle up.”

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