Man accused of beating wife after she shared photos to raise epilepsy awareness
A woman who shared photos of her seizure injuries for epilepsy awareness is distraught after people wrongly took them as evidence that her husband beats her.
42-year-old Sarah Bomzer was making a cup of tea for her husband Adam, 43, last month, when she had a seizure.
The mum-of-two was rushed to hospital and suffered severe bruising to her arms and face, including a cut under her eye after she hit the kitchen counter when she fell.
Artist Sarah, who is undergoing tests to confirm a diagnosis of epilepsy, shared pictures of her injuries on social media to raise awareness of the condition and the impact it has on people’s lives.
However after posting the images, Sarah’s inbox was flooded with messages from people accusing Adam of domestic violence and urging the mum to stop lying about it.
As well as the upsetting messages and comments, Sarah has also overheard strangers gossiping as she walks by and asking each other, ‘have you seen her face?’.
She claims Adam has been left ‘extremely upset’ by messages from people who believed he was hurting his wife.
While the mum wants to reassure people with genuine concerns for her safety, she is also determined to shut down those who don’t want the truth to get in the way of a ‘good story’.
Sarah, from Southampton, said: ‘I shared the photos and people questioned me about how it happened.
‘I’ve had people messaging me asking if I actually had a seizure and if I’m sure I’m telling the truth about it. Nothing malicious. All the messages were with good intentions.
‘I understand because of the way the injuries look, they look like abuse could have been the cause but if that were the case, I never would have posted about it.
‘If I was being abused, you wouldn’t see my injuries on social media, you wouldn’t hear about them at all. This happened because I have seizures.
‘My husband isn’t responsible but it feels like some people won’t let the truth get in the way of a good story.
‘It is hurtful. Adam is extremely upset about it. He’s been looking after me so well. He’s there at every hospital visit so for people to assume he’s hurting me is awful.
‘It’s both of our second marriage and it would be nice if people could have faith that we got it right this time.
‘I didn’t post the pictures to say “look at me, I’m a beaten wife”, I wanted to say “look I’m epileptic and this is what happens”.
‘It’s really important to me to raise awareness of epilepsy and how it affects people. If there’s anything I can do to raise awareness of it, I’m prepared to do it.’
Adam and Sarah have been married for a year after meeting through a Facebook group in 2016.
The couple were getting ready for a romantic weekend away when Sarah’s latest seizure took place and saw them rushing to A&E instead.
Sarah had to have the cut under her eye glued and stayed in hospital overnight on a drip and painkillers.
She says she feels incredibly lucky that she fell the way she did as she fears she could have ‘lost her sight’ in one eye if the cut had been just a few millimetres higher up.
While her seizures sometimes leave her with physical injuries, Sarah says they have a worse impact on Adam who has to watch his wife suffer.
Sarah said: ‘Adam had booked a hotel for us to have a romantic date night away but he ended up taking me to hospital so I basically ruined our date.
‘I’d gone downstairs to make a cup of tea and the next thing I knew I was waking up on the kitchen floor.
‘Whenever I have a seizure, I have no recollection of it. I was confused for a bit and I had to try to remember what I was I doing.
‘I remembered so I got up and made Adam his tea. When I went upstairs to him he asked what took me so long and I told him I had a seizure.
‘Then he looked at my face and said “right you’re going to hospital”. At first I tried to tell him “no” because I wasn’t in any pain but then I saw the blood on the kitchen floor.
‘I’m so lucky really. If the cut was any closer to my eye, I could have lost my sight in that eye.
‘My arm took the main force of my fall so that’s where I’ve had the most pain. The bruising was pretty bad but it’s all healing nicely.
‘The seizures might happen to me but it’s harder for Adam. I have no idea what’s going on when they happen but he sees them and sees me hurting.
‘It really is harder for him so for people to then say “maybe he’s knocking her about” is awful.’
Sarah, who has two kids from a previous marriage, Natalie and Nicholas, started suffering from seizures in January 2016.
At first Sarah dismissed her seizures as panic attacks brought on by the stress of going through a divorce.
But the seizures became more and more frequent until Sarah was suffering up to eight every day and losing hours of her memory during the blackouts.
She is due to have neurological tests to confirm her diagnosis but doctors suspect she suffers from epilepsy.
In the meantime, Sarah takes beta blockers and CBD oil which has seen her seizures reduce to just one or two a week.
As well as help from her medication, one of Sarah’s three Labradors, Bagheera, has learnt the signs of his owner’s seizures and tries to alert her when they’re about to happen.
Sarah said: ‘He hasn’t been taught how to do it but if he’s around when I’m about to go, he will let me know.
‘If I’m sitting down he will put his paws in my lap and if I’m standing he comes up to me and howls. He makes it very clear he needs my attention. The other two are dopey.
‘All the doctors suspect it’s epilepsy but I’m waiting for an official diagnosis.
‘My mum also has epilepsy but we’ve been told it’s not hereditary. It’s a huge coincidence and I have kids of my own so it’s a worry.’
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